Are you fed up with being treated like a doormat? Putting everyone else’s demands before your own, only to discover that you are drowning in bitterness and resentment? What is your people-pleasing addiction really costing you?
Let’s discuss the price of not prioritizing your own needs. It’s like giving someone else the keys to your happiness and then watching it speed away, leaving you in a smoke screen of remorse and frustration, wondering, “Why did I allow that to happen again?” Bid farewell to a life that feels like Nad’s hair removal (BTW, that f*cking sh*t hurt!) and more of a joyride. One where you are designing a life for yourself by you where you can realize your hopes, desires, and dreams.
I am not judging you but offering you a different perspective and a solution to free yourself from a lifetime of people-pleasing. I am a card-carrying member of PPA- People Pleasing Anonymous. It isn’t that anonymous since I just told you.
I digress, take a few moments and scan this list of the actual cost of your people-pleasing compulsion:
When I constantly put other people first, I…
- Reduce the amount of time I have for personal care. (You may not be eating well, giving your body the appropriate amount of sleep or movement, etc. You get the idea.)
- I am not in alignment with my True Self. I am often doing sh*t I don’t want to do. Or thinking and saying one thing and then doing another.
- Increase my stress level.
- Lack of personal boundaries. Often saying “Yes,” when your True Self is screaming, “B*tch, you need to learn how to say “No” and mean it.
- Suppress my emotions, which can lead to other self-soothing addictions with food, technology, alcohol, or drugs.
- Have many unfilled dreams and missed opportunities. This is a sad one. How many people lie on their deathbeds and never take the chance: to write a song, take that trip, love without regard, or discover the greatest love of their life?
- Feel frequent frustration and resentment.
- Do not allow time and space for my creative self to flourish.
If you checked many of those boxes, you are not alone. But here’s the excellent news: you do not have to allow someone else to define your happiness and run your life. YOU have the power to put yourself first!
Now, you may be wondering, “How the f*ck do I do that?”
Being aware is a fabulous start, but reprogramming your human will take some work. When you choose to “do the work” in the Fed Up, Not F*cked Up course, you will:
- Embrace and live the principle that Self-Love is just one of your f*cking superpowers! Spoiler Alert: We have all been programmed to believe that putting yourself first is “selfish.” That is 100% bullsh*t.
- You’ll learn to set and keep boundaries.
- You will come into alignment with your True Self in different areas of your life – Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual.
- You will save a f*ck-ton of money because you will no longer be feeding multiple “addictions” to numb yourself.
- Understand and accept all the parts of you that are allowing you to self-sabotage and be a giant doormat.
Uh, that’s enough; isn’t it time to stop permitting folks from wiping their dog-shit-covered shoes on your f*cking life?
Imagine your new life where saying “No” is liberating.
Imagine yourself engaging in self-love practices guilt-free because you know you truly deserve every moment of what you choose to do.
Imagine honoring when you need rest and renewal.
Imagine pursuing your interests, taking back your time/money, and watching your ambitions and dreams materialize before your very eyes like a magnificent sunrise.
The Fed Up, Not F*cked Up course is your ticket to a life you love, not loathe. I want you to know that it is NOT too late to hit the brakes, take a detour, and start designing a life beaming with passion and joy. Say it loud and proud: “I am NOT a f*cking doormat! I choose ME!” If not now, when?
