Toda’ys Topic is all about loving yourself even when you’re frustrated, angry, mad, or upset with yourself. See, last week’s post was about allowing the full spectrum of your human emotions.
Feeling mad gives you contrast. If you were always happy, you wouldn’t have the same appreciation when you do feel happy and joyful.
For example, let’s say your favorite flavor of ice cream is chocolate. You eat it several times a week, but the grocery store was out of your favorite chocolate brand this week, so you buy vanilla. You’re mad and pissed off, but you gotta have ice cream, right? This gives you contrast as you sit down and eat the vanilla. You’re still a little ticked off that you do not have chocolate, but you have a new appreciation for when your favorite friend is back in stock.
When you’re angrier than a wet cat at yourself, here’s a Wisdom Wand that you can use to help. It’s called “Mirror, Mirror on the Wall.”
Here’s how to do this quick two-minute strategy:
1. Stand in front of a mirror
2. Set a timer for one minute
3. Stare into your eyes and allow all your emotions.
4. Just watch and feel
5. Set a timer for another minute
6. Stare into your eyes again
7. Take your fingertips and tap just below your collarbone,
8. Say, “It is safe for me to feel it all. I am loved no matter what emotions I feel.”
This is such an effective strategy because there’s something profound about looking yourself in the eye, and if you look at last week’s blog post, you realize, with part of our programming, that it was never safe or accepted to feel all of our emotions.
Getting outside is another great way to practice self-love when you’re mad at yourself. Whatever the weather, just stepping out of the box that you were in will help you change your perspective.
Also, did you know that the average emotion only lasts 90 seconds?
Some of you think, “Laura, you’re crazy! Sometimes I’m pissed off for days at myself.” Well, that’s because you keep choosing to pick up the emotion of being pissed off.
That emotion only lasts for 90 seconds, but you are choosing to create another situation where you feel that pissed-off emotion again and again and again. By the way, that is the creation of a mood.
Just f*cking stop it!
You are in charge here!
