Tea and a Truth Biscuit: The Bullsh*t Call-Out Grid — Radical Clarity in 5 Minutes
Let’s be real: words like boundary, gaslighting, and trauma get thrown around so much they’ve become excuses more than tools. You slap the label on, and boom—you don’t have to actually deal with the mess under it.
Here’s the wake-up call: if you’re hiding behind the word, you’re not healing. You’re stalling.
Enter the Bullsh*t Call-Out Grid.
It’s quick. It’s dirty. And it forces you to stop lying to yourself.
The Wisdom Wand: The Bullsh*t Call-Out Grid
Grab a scrap of paper and make three columns:
The Word I’m Hiding Behind
What I’m Really Avoiding
One Thing I’ll Do in 24 Hours
Here’s how it might look when you actually tell the truth (these are just suggestions—feel free to fill in what you’re really avoiding). Spoiler: it won’t be pretty, but it’ll be real.
| The Word I’m Hiding Behind | What I’m Really Avoiding | One Thing I’ll Do in 24 Hours |
|---|---|---|
| “Boundary” | Saying the damn thing out loud because I’m scared they’ll be pissed | Write the sentence. Text or say it—done. |
| “Gaslighting” | Owning my piece of the mess | Ask: “Here’s what I heard. What did you mean?” Listen, then decide. |
| “Trauma” | Dropping the act and saying, “That sh*t hurt.” | Go for a cry walk. Journal. Call it what it is instead of dancing around it. |
| “No contact” | The guts it takes to repair after a blow-up | Draft the repair script. If it’s safe, try it. If it’s not, hold your line and get support. |
How to Use It
Write it down. No filters. No polishing.
Pick one move.
Do it today—not next Monday.
Pay attention: your body will calm the hell down once you take aligned action.
Tomorrow? Do it again.
Wisdom Nugget
Healing doesn’t live in a hashtag. It lives in what you actually do.
Why It Works
Because the Bullsh*t Call-Out Grid doesn’t let you hide. It makes you stare straight at the game you’re playing and either call it out or keep looping. Your choice.
Your Move
Grab a pen, draw the grid, and call your own bluff. Five minutes. One action. Done.
Your Turn
Share one thing you learned from the Wisdom Wand: The Bullsh*t Call-Out Grid. Drop it in the comments—I want to see the truths you’re calling out.
I love all you people.
Love and ((HUGS)),
Laura,