If you do a Google search on “why we don’t cope with our emotions, you see things like:
- Low blood sugar,
- Exhaustion from lack of sleep,
- Stress,
- Depression,
- Neurological conditions,
- Or psychological conditions.
While any of these things could be true for you.
Spoiler alert: They are true if you choose to believe them.
There is nothing wrong with believing in any of the suggested, mainstream ideas for not coping with your emotions. However, if you are reading this, you are beginning to see that I’m a straight shooter and will always offer you another thought avenue to explore.
I believe the two main reasons you don’t cope with your emotions are: Conditioning and Archetypes.
- From a very young age, you were conditioned that certain emotions were taboo, unwelcome, and downright suppressed.
- One of our Archetypes is in control:
We play many different roles and put on tons of masks; however, most of those roles fall within three main archetypes:
The Closet Character:
These are parts of you that you exiled to the closet. You hid them away for whatever reason. Trauma, pain, or fear could lead to this part being isolated or hidden to be kept safe, Or to remain part of the tribe; this would undoubtedly be vitally important if you were an infant, unable to care for yourself.
The Multi-Tasking Master:
This is the B*tch *ss Mother F*cker that gets sh*t done! They are in charge of the day-to-day operation of your life. They can also set targets, help you focus, and achieve a sh*t-ton of stuff. An “ugly” side can show up as a control freak or Judgmental Judy.
Dictating Distractor:
*Or, as I affectionately call her, “Squirrel.”
When an exiled closet character gets triggered, the dictating distractor will swing into action and suggest all sorts of sh*t to remove the focus from potential “pain”… food, business, alcohol, drugs, technology, etc.
While most of these difficulties can be traced to the subconscious programming done in your childhood, I do not recommend that you spend years in therapy blaming your mama, granddad, or crazy uncle Billy.
Nor do I suggest you visit your doctor to ask if the latest “ProZam” prescription medication may be best to treat your depression. Incidentally, examine the small print on the RX “Possible side effects include.…increased risk of heart attack, feeling anxious, constipation, explosive diarrhea or terminal flatulence.” Well. That certainly will put it into your depression!
I digress…
I am not a doctor or a registered therapist, but I am medication free and coping with all my emotions, and you can choose to do the same.
I know you are like, “Well, Princess Positive, how do I do that?”
I suggest:
- You come into awareness of all of your emotions. Are there patterns you recognize?
- Notice and journal about archetype characters playing a massive role in your life.
Incidentally, one of the platforms of Holistic Scaffolding™ is “Accepting all of You.” There are a ton of practical, tried, and true Wisdom Wands (tools) that can help you work through whatever life is presenting for you.
The ideas that I propose here are well within your reach and control. You no longer have to believe that there is something wrong with you. You have everything you need to feel all your emotions and live your best possible life.
It’s all you, baby, and I am here to assist you on your journey!
