It’s time yet again for Tea and a Truth Biscuit. Today’s topic is all about you defining sexy. Sexy, according to my linguistic friends over at Merriam Webster, is: an adjective, (1) sexually suggestive or stimulating, erotic, (2) generally attractive or interesting, appealing.
But who gives a flying duck fart how they define it? I mean that “Who cares?”
Wisdom Nugget:
Being sexy is subjective, and it doesn’t matter what the societal norm has collectively agreed on what sexy means. Because when you are in alignment with your True Self, you get to define sexy!
Human Laura and Sexy Lingerie
Permit me to share a story. I recently took the opportunity to purchase myself some sexy lingerie. I stood in the aisle, examining all of my options. I had a rainbow assortment of lacy, silky bras, teddies, boy shorts, bikinis, and thongs.
As I sat back within myself and listened to what my “human Laura” was saying, I was somewhat surprised…
- Thongs are slutty.
- Thongs are so uncomfortable (Although I had never worn one before.)
- You’re too fat to wear any of that sexy stuff.
I lovingly stopped myself and pondered for a moment. I asked myself, “Who defines sexy?”
An intuitive knowing, my True Self, shouted, “You do!”
So, I placed several slinky items in my basket and brought them home.
I unpacked my purchase and decided to waste no time. I put on one of the lacy bras and a thong and stood in front of a large mirror. I repeated to myself, “I am beautiful. I am sexy.”
And, even though I am blessed enough to have a soul partner who tells me those things, I have reached a point in this lifetime where I no longer need to hear those words from another.
Later in the day, I reflected upon my experience, and a memory flashed into my awareness. Over a decade ago, while at the beach, I saw an older lady wearing a bikini. She was of ample size, very tan, and had stretch marks galore.
I distinctly remember thinking, “OMG, she should not be wearing a bikini. Only about 1% of the population has a bikini-worthy body.” Oy, vey, what f*cked up, bullsh*t programming was I choosing to believe!
What is Bullsh*t Programming?
You might not know the term bullsh*t programming, but you know what it is. It’s that sh*t we’re taught, conditioned, or programmed, so you would be “normal”; hence, you would fit in and not embarrass your tribe.
All this bullsh*t programming forges a gap (misalignment) between your True Self and the person you present to the public. It’s the bullsh*t programming that dictates people who only look like one way or another are sexy.
Well, guess what? It’s not true.
From where I exist right now, I thank that beautiful, sexy woman. She knew then what I know now: YOU DEFINE SEXY!
How To Define Sexy
You are reading this and wondering, “How?”
Well, it all begins and ends with you. Perhaps you’ve come to a spot where you are f*ckin’ fed up with trying to live up to an impossible beauty standard and all the other bullsh*t programming we know.
You know, the 36-24-36 with only 20.5% body fat, no stretch marks, perky boobs, and a taut hiney. You intuitively know it’s not only the only version of sexy.
And you’re tired of listening to these lies. You’re tired of forcing yourself to fit into this lie, where you just end up in a deeper pit of self-loathing. (In my case, this just led to the stalking of the local Krispy Kreme Donut in search of the illuminated “Hot Now” sign for a free donut. Okay, confession time: I could eat at least eight donuts in one sitting.“)
